Yesterday, I was surprised to learn that my coach, Stephen McGhee, regularly turns potential clients away. I wondered why he would turn away potential clients who want to work with him. Stephen responded very clearly that he only works with people who have an inspiring vision and are committed to it. He only works with people that he’s excited to work with.
I’ve been trying to crystallize the same experience I’ve been having. When some people speak, I’m not very excited in hearing them speak. I can’t feel THEM in what they are saying. I feel some idea that’s not them or I feel someone else speaking through them. I hear approval seeking, security seeking and money seeking. I hear people trying to prove something or trying to hide something. I know this because I did it for years too.
The people I am excited to work with are those who are INSPIRED by something. They have pure intentions in what they want to create. I can feel THEM in it. They feel like they have a bigger purpose they are meant to give. They are committed to it, not just wishing about it. They have a specific outcome in mind. They are GOING to make it happen. Nothing will get in their way. Hearing them speak excites me.
I also noticed that the clients who get the best results from my coaching are those types of clients who are committed to their vision. They are real. They are authentic. They are motivated by service and contribution. Other clients who didn’t get those results didn’t have an inspired vision, weren’t clear on what they wanted to create, and weren’t committed to creating it either. This is the main distinction I can see between my clients who achieved results and those who didn’t.
I am also making a new commitment as a coach. I am only working with those people from now on that I am excited to work with. I am only working with people who meet the following criteria:
-They are motivated by contribution and service.
-They have a specific vision and project of what they want to create born out of their purpose.
-They are committed to creating their project this year. Their project is a MUST for them.
-I can feel THEM in what they are creating, and I am excited about WHY they are creating what they are creating.
I feel that this is my new responsibility as a coach and leader. I am a catalyst for those who are committed to making a difference in the world. I am a leader for those who are committed to offering their true purpose and what makes them COME ALIVE. I am a coach for those who have CLARITY in what they create.